In Sunday’s Washington Post I came across a review of a new book Pink Brain, Blue Brain, How Small Differences Grow Into Troublesome Gaps — and What We Can Do About It by Lise Eliot. The book is a study of gender and the brain but as I read the review I couldn’t help but draw connections to perceptions about children with disabilities and how perceptions negatively and forever shape people’s lives.
The review of Pink Brain, Blue Brain begins with a study of mothers’ perceptions based on the gender of their babies:
“In one study documented in the book, mothers brought their 11-month-olds to a lab so the babies could crawl down a carpeted slope. The moms pushed a button to change the slope’s angle based on what they thought their children could handle. And then the babies were tested to see how steep a slope they could navigate.”
Girls and boys did equally well in navigating the slope but the moms underestimated their daughters’ “aptitude by a significant margin.” The idea of gender differences are “sexy” – so sexy it seems that we begin to exaggerate them to the point that “Our assumptions crystallize into childrens’ self-perceptions and self-fulfilling prophecies.”
“Girls’ slightly lesser interest in puzzles and building toys is reinforced instead of challenged, and it turns into a gap in spatial skills and map reading. Parents and teachers see a boy lagging in reading and verbal skills and shrug it off with, “But of course, he’s a boy.”
While labels of disability are not often viewed as “sexy” in our culture (some of us are working on that) but difference for children with labels of disability is hugely exaggerated from the get go, leading to lifelong injustices and lost capacity for an entire society. Instead of “But of course, he’s a boy”, it becomes “But of course, he has a disability.”
Trust me, those words change everything.
While the author of Pink Brain, Blue Brain points out the danger of groundless claims, exaggerations and assumptions around gender differences, who’s pointing out the groundless claims, exaggerations and assumptions surrounding children with labels of disabilities? One major hurdle is that aptitude, potential, and possibilities for children with disabilities is perceived as hard and fast SCIENCE rather than a RESULT of social conditioning, exclusion and self-fulfilling prophesies. How sad is that? These circumstances and the huge disability industrial complex that benefits make it all the more challenging (but not impossible) to by-pass exaggerations and assumptions in schools, homes, communities.
And that’s the catch-22. According to Eliot, the very places that children with labels of disability are excluded are the very places they must BE present to have any hope of breaking through socially imposed stereotypical assumptions and their resulting injustices.
“Our brains are works in progress. They change based on experience, especially in early childhood. So a child’s environment matters in terms of the skills and interests he or she develops.”
p.s. Maybe we need a book titled “The Labeled Brain, How Differences Grow into Injustice”